💛 My Expectations in Any Relationship — Online or Face to Face
By Taji Lechelle Edmonds | Bold and Blunt for Christ
“Crowned by Grace. Bold in Faith.”
Whether we met online, through a friend, or in real life — my expectations don’t change.
Distance does not lower my standards, and presence does not excuse poor effort.
If you call yourself my man, then I expect you to show up with consistency, clarity, and commitment — because that’s exactly what I bring to the table.
💬 Communication & Time
- Weekly video calls (or in-person meetups if local) — no excuses. I need to see you, not just text you.
- Consistent, honest communication. No disappearing or ghosting when life gets busy.
- Respect when I need space. If I ask for time to rest, pray, or regroup — honor that. Don’t take it personal or push past boundaries.
“Be angry [at sin—at immorality, at injustice, at ungodly behavior], yet do not sin; do not let your anger [cause you shame, nor allow it to] last until the sun goes down. [Ps 4:4] And do not give the devil an opportunity [to lead you into sin by holding a grudge, or nurturing anger, or harboring resentment, or cultivating bitterness].”
Ephesians 4:26-27 AMP
“I pray that your partnership with us in the faith may be effective in deepening your understanding of every good thing we share for the sake of Christ.”
Philemon 1:6 NIV
💵 Provision & Generosity
- If you call me your woman, I expect provision and generosity. That includes:
- Sending gifts or helping when I’m in need
- Random thoughtful gestures — not just on holidays
- Following through with action, not just empty words
- A real man knows how to take care of himself and his woman.
- I’m not a fixer or rescuer — I give because I want to, not because a man needs me to survive.
- Whether you live next door or states away — effort is shown by how you invest, not how often we’re physically together.
🔶 Non-Negotiable #1: Provision & Financial Intentionality
I will not accept a relationship where I carry all the weight.
I expect a man who shows up with actions, not excuses.
“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” — 1 Timothy 5:8
💍 Loyalty & Exclusivity
- If we’re building something real, I need your full attention — not divided energy.
- No emotional or romantic ties with other women
- No “flirty friendships” that disrespect our connection
- No side conversations or inbox drama
- Loyalty is not optional — it’s foundational
🔶 Non-Negotiable #2: Honesty & Loyalty
Secrets, games, or entertaining other women are dealbreakers.
If I have to question where I stand, then you’re not the one for me.
“The Lord detests lying lips, but He delights in people who are trustworthy.” — Proverbs 12:22
🧭 Intentions & Action
- Make real plans. If we’re long-distance, I expect a clear visit scheduled before the end of the year. If we’re local, I still need dates — not just “chillin’” at home.
- Be upfront about your past. If you’re divorced, separated, or emotionally tied to someone else, say that now, not later.
“And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”
Colossians 3:17 NIV
“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.”
Proverbs 16:3 NIV
✝️ Faith & Foundation
- God must come first. We must be spiritually aligned. That means:
- Praying together
- Studying God’s Word
- Holding each other accountable to His standards
- Honoring purity, purpose, and prayer
- I’m not dating for fun. I’m dating with the intention of marriage, not situationships.
This is Kingdom work — not casual entertainment.
🔶 Non-Negotiable #3: Faith First, Always
We must be equally yoked. I will not build a relationship where God is not welcome.
We either build it on faith or we don’t build it at all.
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” — 2 Corinthians 6:14
🙏 A Bold Woman’s Prayer for Love & Alignment
Father God,
Thank You for giving me the strength to love boldly and wait patiently.
Help me never to shrink my standards for comfort or settle for confusion.
Reveal anything counterfeit and protect my heart from deceit.
Let my next relationship reflect Your glory, Your timing, and Your order.
Keep me rooted in purpose, guided by wisdom, and grounded in truth.
If it’s from You, let it flourish. If it’s not, give me peace to release it.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
💡 Final Words to My Sisters
Stop letting people who aren’t committed to God negotiate your standards.
You don’t have to apologize for wanting a man who leads, gives, prays, and protects.
You don’t have to wait on someone to get serious when you’re already walking in purpose.
And you certainly don’t have to beg to be loved the way God designed.
Your standards are not too high — they just aren’t meant for everyone.
— Taji Lechelle
Bold and Blunt for Christ
Crowned by Grace. Bold in Faith.
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